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20
May 2019

Episode 8: Others Focused in a Selfie World (video)

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The culture we are in does not represent the Kingdom we are of. Yet, without self-evaluation and intentionality, the culture and standard way of thinking becomes our own.

Here's some of the keys mentioned in this podcast:

When we are fighting to get ahead in business, trying to get noticed for a job well done or even by our dress, these actions actually model selfishness for our kids as the example to follow.

It’s not about “fair, it’s about how much we care.

  • The concern for "being fair" is rooted in selfishness and usually displays that their value is in things and experiences, not in who God is or who He has created them to be.

Steps to eliminating selfishness in the family.

  • Pick a phrase, such as fair/care, and hang it on the fridge.
  • Each time we pray, pray about someone outside the family.
  • Set the schedule for the week with your kids and show how you schedule by priorities, not urgencies.

Tips and Ideas:

  • Boz the Bear DVD's for your preschooler
  • This series does an amazing job at displaying thoughtfulness and honoring others above ourselves.
  • What are some ways our family can be others focused?
    • Doesn’t have to be grand, but for the biggest impact, start scheduling one thing for the benefit of others regularly
    • Start with: Pick up trash in your neighborhood, or in the neighborhood around your church – pray for the neighbors and talk about why we are going to be more intentional about blessing others
    • Watch a movie like Blind Side, Wonder or Dolphin Tale, then talk about how the characters in the movie chose to love others well.
    • Visit a nursing home
    • Get a five-dollar gift card for each person in the family, but instead of spending it on themselves, pray together as a family. Ask God to give each family member an idea of a person they should give it to (color of shirt or hair, age, in a certain aisle at the store, etc.) Then, go to store, park, or other public place and let the kids bless someone who matches the ideas they got while praying.
      • Also a great way to teach the kids to recognize how God talks to them
    • Pay for the meal of the car behind you in the drive-through
    • Write letters to active military or government leaders to thank them for their service or write a prayer out for them.
    • Set up a lemonade stand, and give the lemonade away for free or offer to pray with each person who stops
    • Have a day where they are not allowed to pray for themselves – all prayers must be for or about others.
    • Serve together at your church at least once a month
    • Do a one-month Random Acts of Kindness calendar – a quick web search and you will find some great options!
      • Do it in a month, so spread it out - one a week for 31 weeks!
    • Ask the kids! They will have some great ideas as well!
20
May 2019

Episode 8: Others Focused in a Selfie World (audio)

The Culture we are in does not represent the Kingdom we are of. Yet, without self-evaluation and intentionality, the culture and standard way of thinking becomes our own.

Here's some of the keys mentioned in this podcast:

When we are fighting to get ahead in business, trying to get noticed for a job well done or even by our dress, these actions actually model selfishness for our kids as the example to follow.

It’s not about “fair, it’s about how much we care.

  • The concern for "being fair" is rooted in selfishness and usually displays that their value is in things and experiences, not in who God is or who He has created them to be.

steps to eliminating selfishness in the family.

  • Pick a phrase, such as fair/care, and hang it on the fridge.
  • Each time we pray, pray about someone outside the family.
  • Set the schedule for the week with your kids and show how you schedule by priorities, not urgencies.

Tips and Ideas:

  • Boz the Bear DVD's for your preschooler
  • This series does an amazing job at displaying thoughtfulness and honoring others above ourselves.
  • What are some ways our family can be others focused?
    • Doesn’t have to be grand, but for the biggest impact, start scheduling one thing for the benefit of others regularly
    • Start with: Pick up trash in your neighborhood, or in the neighborhood around your church – pray for the neighbors and talk about why we are going to be more intentional about blessing others
    • Watch a movie like Blind Side, Wonder or Dolphin Tale, then talk about how the characters in the movie chose to love others well.
    • Visit a nursing home
    • Get a five-dollar gift card for each person in the family, but instead of spending it on themselves, pray together as a family. Ask God to give each family member an idea of a person they should give it to (color of shirt or hair, age, in a certain aisle at the store, etc.) Then, go to store, park, or other public place and let the kids bless someone who matches the ideas they got while praying.
      • Also a great way to teach the kids to recognize how God talks to them
    • Pay for the meal of the car behind you in the drive-through
    • Write letters to active military or government leaders to thank them for their service or write a prayer out for them.
    • Set up a lemonade stand, and give the lemonade away for free or offer to pray with each person who stops
    • Have a day where they are not allowed to pray for themselves – all prayers must be for or about others.
    • Serve together at your church at least once a month
    • Do a one-month Random Acts of Kindness calendar – a quick web search and you will find some great options!
      • Do it in a month, so spread it out - one a week for 31 weeks!
    • Ask the kids! They will have some great ideas as well!
13
May 2019

Episode 7: Unified Family Prayer (video)

Watch Now:

Today, we give you massive amounts of encouragement and ideas on how to lead your kids to grow in their ability to connect with God. That's what prayer is all about!

To download the Ephesians prayer page that we mention, CLICK HERE!

To download the Prayer dice CLICK HERE!

13
May 2019

Episode 7: Unified Family Prayer (audio)

Today, we give you massive amounts of encouragement and ideas on how to lead your kids to grow in their ability to connect with God. That's what prayer is all about!

To download the Ephesians prayer page that we mention, CLICK HERE!

To download the Prayer dice CLICK HERE!

6
May 2019

Episode 6: Secrets to Prayer (video)

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Too often, parents' prayers are hidden away in the prayer closet or in our private times, leaving the kids without an example of real prayer. We encourage you to pray with the kids, remind them to be sensitive to God throughout the day. There's tips to train your kids on how to be sensitive to God, plus we tackle two big Prayer Blockers that we will be discussing in next week's Root Family Bible classes!

6
May 2019

Episode 6: Secrets to Prayer (audio)

Too often, parents' prayers are hidden away in the prayer closet or in our private times, leaving the kids without an example of real prayer. We encourage you to pray with the kids, remind them to be sensitive to God throughout the day. There's tips to train your kids on how to be sensitive to God, plus we tackle two big Prayer Blockers that we will be discussing in next week's Root Family Bible classes!

29
Apr 2019

Episode 5: It’s all about Prayer (video)

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We introduced today the topic for the next few weeks: Prayer. Simply, it is just talking with God, and yet it feels daunting. As parents, we often don't feel "qualified" to teach kids how to pray. We don't feel like we are amazing pray-ers, and don't want to duplicate our inabilities, and yet, we discount who God can be through us for our kids!

Here are the two resources we mentioned today:
- The YouVersion Bible App: There are tons of reading plans about prayer for you! We suggest the multiple reading plans called "Praying God's Word over your Kids" ( my.bible.com/reading-plans/1226…r-your-kids-part-1 )
They even have one for kids: Ancora Kids Get Praying ( my.bible.com/reading-plans/1305…a-kids-get-praying )

The Book "With Christ in the School of Prayer" by Andrew Murray. You can download or buy it in just about every version that you'd want, even free pdf downloadable versions.

This month's challenge: Read one chapter of the book every day of May. The book is small and each chapter is only about 5 pages long, so you can easily knock it out with some intentionality!

Join us as we unpack how we can lead our kids into being great leaders!

29
Apr 2019

Episode 5: It’s all about Prayer (audio)

We introduced today the topic for the next few weeks: Prayer. Simply, it is just talking with God, and yet it feels daunting. As parents, we often don't feel "qualified" to teach kids how to pray. We don't feel like we are amazing pray-ers, and don't want to duplicate our inabilities, and yet, we discount who God can be through us for our kids!

Here are the two resources we mentioned today:
- The YouVersion Bible App: There are tons of reading plans about prayer for you! We suggest the multiple reading plans called "Praying God's Word over your Kids" ( my.bible.com/reading-plans/1226…r-your-kids-part-1 )
They even have one for kids: Ancora Kids Get Praying ( my.bible.com/reading-plans/1305…a-kids-get-praying )

The Book "With Christ in the School of Prayer" by Andrew Murray. You can download or buy it in just about every version that you'd want, even free pdf downloadable versions.

This month's challenge: Read one chapter of the book every day of May. The book is small and each chapter is only about 5 pages long, so you can easily knock it out with some intentionality!

Join us as we unpack how we can lead our kids into being great leaders!

22
Apr 2019

Episode 4: Tearing Down Strongholds (video)

Watch Now:

A stronghold is like a habit of the mind - a way of thinking that you don't even think about. The only way, then, to think about, is to either have another person point it out to you, or the Holy Spirit points it out to you.

Your kids are beginning to have strongholds created in their minds - way to act, react, their self-image, or even about others. Right now, some might even say are "cute" or "just kids", but are they the kind of strongholds that we want established in our kids? If no, then let's work with them (in love) to demolish them by speaking God's Word about those areas until we believe them!

22
Apr 2019

Episode 4: Tearing Down Strongholds (audio)

A stronghold is like a habit of the mind - a way of thinking that you don't even think about. The only way, then, to think about, is to either have another person point it out to you, or the Holy Spirit points it out to you.

Your kids are beginning to have strongholds created in their minds - way to act, react, their self-image, or even about others. Right now, some might even say are "cute" or "just kids", but are they the kind of strongholds that we want established in our kids? If no, then let's work with them (in love) to demolish them by speaking God's Word about those areas until we believe them!